We spend a lot of time talking about how to “get through” a divorce, but what about coming out on top? Is it possible to “succeed” at divorce? The editors at HuffPost think so, and we agree. With the help of an experienced family divorce attorney, you can “win” divorce.
Here are a few tips Laura Miolla provides:
1. Silence your saboteurs. Notice those negative voices and acknowledge them in your mind. Realize that they are trying to create a dark future for you. Once you’re recognized them you have a choice- believe them or choose to put their opinion aside and think positively.
2. Identify what you want. Too many people go into a divorce just trying to get past it, without taking the proper time to consider what it is they want out of the process. You have a lot to win and lose in a divorce process and you need to know what it is you’re hoping to achieve.
3. Honor your values. A divorce or separation can leave you feeling hopeless and lost. These feelings of loneliness are common and will come and go. However, one thing you don’t want to lose are your values. Don’t end the divorce feeling like you intentionally destroyed your ex or hurt your children. Things will get ugly and you may want to play dirty, but coming out of the divorce with your dignity is more important for your emotional health than one may realize.