When people talk about the difficulties of getting divorced, one of the main issues is always how to address the topic with young children. It’s hard for them to understand that things are going to change.
As an older couple going through a separation, it can be just as complicated to bring up the topic with your adult children. They may be shocked, angry and confused by what’s happening. Here are a few ways you can make the process easier on all of you.
Get your children together
It may be the case that your adult children have all moved out and are living in completely different locations. If it’s possible, it’s a good idea to tell all your children together, in one place and in person. This avoids one child being angry that they heard after everyone else or had to hear it from a sibling instead of from you.
Listen to what they have to say
When you break the news, there may be many questions and expressions of anger and sadness. It’s important to listen without judgment and to answer the questions as best as you can. Remember that, while this has been a slow process for you and you’ve had time to come to terms with it, it might be a shock to them.
As with young children, it’s always valuable to let them know that they aren’t to blame for the divorce and that there is nothing they could have said or done to prevent it from happening.
As you go through a divorce, it can be a difficult and emotional time. Having helpful and empathetic legal assistance is important in making sure the process is as smooth as possible.